BUT now I add a 3rd choice to modify the forced choice. This
gives me a
new option to consider. But I do not have to (real or imaginary) ABANDON
FOREVER MY SAFETY of my thinking in favor of feeling because somebody
told me to do it. (real or imaginary-struggle for emotional comfort is still a
control struggle)
Now I draw another leg of a triangle with “DO”. This is for
behavior -- what I
DO about my thinking and what I DO about my feelings. How my behavior
influences those two parts of my personality.
(homework about behavior now becomes the issue for making small
changes without major emotional threat -- small starts are good -- too much
means people quit and lose even small gains)
Then I place another “X” between THINK and DO where I
think-feel-believe-experience that I balance DOING with THINKING, not just
with the forced choice of FEELING. (this is easier and fun)
I like doing stuff and I enjoy thinking and planning equally, and I
do it well.
So I have an “X” where I have found a personal balance point
about how
much THINKING does run my life and how much DOING
does run my life, on
average, for the last year or two. |
