1st Degree involves low-level control struggle task problems and
hassle-times -- I have told you 2 times to take out the trash ! --
Are you ever going to finish your homework ?
2nd Degree, in childhood, involves threats, seduction, shaming
and blaming. You better be good or I will spank you. Finish your
homework or there is no dessert after dinner. If you are really
good this week maybe you can go to the movies (maybe being
the operative word here). You are driving me crazy. You are no
good and always/never will be.
3rd Degree ends up in the morgue, the courtroom, or the hospital.
This is the lethal level. People wind up here by not using enough
words or any restraints early enough in the problem presentation,
not paying attention to “lessons presented”, having bad
childhoods that they have not examined and then repaired,
operating mostly on emotions.
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