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Eric Berne said that three important characteristics of the
Parent ego-state were that the Parent provides
PERMISSION - POTENCY - PROTECTION.
  Two additional important characteristics are
REASSURANCE - REPETITION. 
Parenting work is worth doing well with vigor.
PERMISSION gives others the OK to do, think, feel in a certain way, so that they may develop well. Obviously there is considerable responsibility in giving permission. Use care and thought
POTENCY is the developed capacity of knowledge, experience, training, education, and wisdom due to a persons interest and willingness to challenge and change with vigor.
PROTECTION ensures and takes care that others do not experience needless and unnecessary pain, hurt, or embarrassment. Protection has clear rules for interaction in relationships.
REASSURANCE supportively tells others that what they are doing is OK & keep it up!
REPETITION is the patient, loving work of parenting; lessons are repeated until learned.


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