TRANSACTIONS - CROSSED

When any ego-state talks to another and the target ego-state
DOES NOT respond, the transaction is CROSSED. It does not
matter whether the stimulus and response are functional or
dysfunctional.

A common crossed-transaction occurs when a person is asked
a question for information and they take the question as
criticism - they will often cross the transaction with
defensiveness or hostility, and the reverse is true as well.
STIMULUS RESPONSE
“What time is it?” “Am I your mother, get a watch !’
(A to A) (P to C)
“Can you talk to me now ?” “You know I am too busy !”
(A to A) (P to C)
“You are always late ! !” “Tell me more.”
(P to C) (A to A)
“You are never on time ! !” “Will you give me 3 examples?”
(P to C) (A to A)
“You never help me out ! !” ”What can I do for you ?”
(C to P) (A to A)


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