People form alliances, friendships. The “I Am OK (or Not-OK)”
becomes a “We” after “I” and “You” have negotiated to become a
“We;” “You” recruit “Me” or “I” recruit “You,” either way. The “We”
now are dealing with others. The others can be a “You” (singular
or plural),” “He,” She,” Named Person, “They” or Named Group.
Then the “We” are listed on either end of the horizontal axis
instead of “I” and the other party on either end of the vertical
axis.
“You are OK (with me)” Strokes:
“Either way (that you take it),
you are OK with me!” “It’s on me!” “Treat’s on me!”
“I Am OK (with me)” Strokes: “Either way (that you take it) I AM
OK!”
“It’s on you,
if you will be OK with me or not!”
“I Am Not-OK (with me)” Strokes:
“It’s because of me!” “It’s my
fault!”
“You Are Not-OK (with me)” Strokes: (the jeers, put downs and
psychological rackets): “It’s because of you!” “It’s your fault!”
(”It’s ALL MY FAULT,” means “It’s your fault!”)
(From 1975 Addresso’set poster -
F.H.Ernst, Jr., M.D.)
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