WITH
LIMITS
WITH Limits and clear
boundaries people DO know when to start, or stop, when they are done,
when they have gone far enough, or when enough has been said or done.
They are the functional “rules” to get along well, when enough is
enough.
WITH Limits people get involved in agreeable emotional
cooperation with both being OK. The Durable Triangle commitment for
Okness eliminates the power plays of naming, blaming, shaming and the
emotional competition.
The good feelings that follow will be obvious or subtle
and sometimes felt much later than the event that generates them. Nobody
knows who started it, when it started, when it will end, how it will
end, and it works very well indeed. Durability then has a life of its
own: functional, stable, and fun.
1. Lines past which to stop
(time to take a break)
2. Confines or restrictions
(rules or procedures)
3. Restraint within a boundary
(how long to talk)
4. Specifications
(useful words to set
limits)
LIMITS - to
keep / observe rules of Civility, Politeness, Dignity
