FROM THE PSYCHOLOGICALLY AND
FUNCTIONAL POWER POSITION OF
I AM OK - YOU ARE OK
-- WITH LIMITS
People who Reach-Out make estimates of what other people
need or want. It is offered freely, without a hidden agenda,
without a need to be validated by acceptance of the offer. If the
person takes it - done - next. If the person does not want or need
it - done - next. There is no guilt, no shame, no blame, no hidden
advantage. No manipulation for a fast “feel-good.”
The LIMIT here is ASKING the other person clearly in words if
they want what you have to offer. Yes and No are the same.
They establish clarity and eliminate “helper” power struggles.